A Rant About “Girly” Things

First of all, a shout out to my Lokean friends on Facebook! I love it when a serious conversation becomes a CIVIL discussion on gender and sexuality. Seriously, I don’t get civil discussions in Heathen groups, all I get are shouting matches until someone says “I’m keeping the frith!” before they chicken out bow out of the ensuing melee. Love ALL the peeps!

Actually, this post was sparked by a different discussion in my group for queer polytheists (and allies) about things that are marketed towards men and women, and how fucking frustrating that is if you’re genderqueer (which I’m not).

And then I started thinking about my recent review of Leviathan, which, awesome though it is, has yet another example of a girl disguised as a boy who is open about her dislike for all things “girly”.

And you know, I can accept that, after all, Deryn’s trying to fit in to the all-male, sexist British Air Service, she doesn’t really have the luxury of liking “girly” things, she has a secret to protect, after all, and so much to lose if she slips up.

But (and this is the kind of thing that protagonists in urban fantasy are particularly guilty of) there are protagonists who are convinced that they somehow can’t be as kickass as they are and like things like makeup, or dresses. There’s a trope for this, of course: Real Women Don’t Wear Dresses.

And it’s all a bunch of fucking sexist bullshit.

I hate wearing makeup, the colour pink makes me ill, I like wearing dresses (even when it isn’t hot out) and pants, I think horses are okay (I’m allergic), but unicorns are better. I don’t like sports, if all sports dropped off the face of the Earth, I wouldn’t care. I can’t cook to save my life, though I can bake, just not pies. I hate clothes shopping, seriously. I hate it so much I don’t even know my own sizes (I’m tiny, I still fit into clothes that I wore yeeears ago.) I like reptiles and amphibians, my bearded dragon is cute.

I play video games. I like RPGs, both Eastern and Western, FPSes are boring, as are most puzzle games (although 999 is fucking amazing). I also like action games. I’m currently playing Prototype. I should be playing DMC Devil May Cry, but WHAT THE FUCK DID YOU DO TO DANTE, NINJA THEORY? WHAT THE FUCK DID YOU DO TO HIM? And I haven’t played DMC 4 yet.

The only character to date that I didn’t feel anything for is Kratos from God of War. Fuck you, Kratos, I don’t care if your whole village was torched, I just don’t care about you. (Then again, I’ve always rooted for Hector over Achilles, if you know what I mean.)

I swear a lot.

I think I’m the only person alive who actually likes Final Fantasy X-2, because it is ridiculous and LOOK EVERYONE! FANSERVICE!

If someone says a boss is easy, I will take twenty tries to beat them. If someone says a boss is hard, I will beat them on my first try and wonder what everyone else’s problem is? Seriously, Neclord, you were easy! Luca Blight was still hard, though.

I like romance AND “fucking”, figure me out, pornocracy!

I don’t like kids, I tolerate kids, I would never hurt a kid, I rage when I hear about other people hurting kids, I just don’t like them. I don’t really want anything to do with them.

Insects = creepy, except butterflies and dragonflies. I’ve eaten ants once, it was vengeance for all the times the little shits have bitten me.

I will happily try odd food items. I always wanted to go on Fear Factor and try those hissing cockroaches (not sure about the deer penis, though). Apparently they’ve turned larva into snack food. I would eat it, just to say I did.

Okay, seriously, why would I play Kameo: Elements of Power (billed as “Zelda for girls) when I could play an actual Zelda game?

I’m telling you all of this because binaries are just so fucking stupid. Okay, so I could probably put more of those things under a heading marked “girly/womanly things” but why would I waste my time doing that?

I am a woman, I like things, and I can fucking like all those things and it doesn’t make me “less” of a woman….



2 thoughts on “A Rant About “Girly” Things

  1. The whole girly/boyish dichotomy has always been weird and confusing to me, especially when it comes to skills. I can cook, sew, take care of a baby, hunt, unclog a sink, and change a tire. Why? Because these are all skills I actually need to know how to do (okay, the necessity of hunting is debatable, but my point still stands), regardless of my sex or gender.

    Obviously, there are some people who aren’t able to do some of these things (like my sister, who can’t take out the garbage because she’s extremely mysophobic, or my bio-mother, who can’t do much physical labor at all because of chronic pain), but that’s got nothing to do with sex or gender. The whole “women’s work”/”men’s work” just makes zero sense in my mind. Okay, rant over.

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